How to Stop Watching Porn

17 years. That’s how long Brian Bachman was addicted to pornography, all the while living a double life. He was training to be a pastor while trapped in a secret cycle of porn addiction. He tried everything: accountability groups, prayer, filters, and "white-knuckling" his way through. The reward for all that work? More frustration and shame. In Turn Off Porn, Brian shares the clinical and personal breakthroughs that finally ended his struggle and has led to eight years of sobriety.

Most recovery tips focus on behavior modification, you know, treating the symptoms, but ignore why the addiction came about in the first place. We need to tackle porn differently and get to the root reasons, so porn will never come back. This shift changes everything and is the only way to lasting freedom.

Porn is sneaky. The urge to look at porn can feel like it comes out of nowhere, and yet, through this book, you'll be able to notice when urges are building and cut them off before you relapse.

You will be equipped to:

• Name and counter your triggers

• Identify and disrupt your cycle of porn use

• Process overlooked emotions that "feed" urges to use porn

• Build an "emergency tool kit."

• Dismantle the shame that enables porn

• Discover and satisfy unmet needs that lead to porn use

How to Quit Porn

Book Summary

Porn addiction can feel like a maddening game of whack-a-mole, hitting every urge with a mallet of exhaustive willpower and frustrated prayer— until they inevitably burn out and, once again, return to the den of porn. Brian maps out, through clinical and personal experience, what really stops the haunting sirens of porn. In Turn Off Porn, Brian Bachman leads with transparency, shepherding kindness, and surgical wisdom to help people get to the roots of their porn addiction.

Bachman deconstructs the myth that willpower is the primary engine of recovery. Instead, he identifies porn as a symptom of "overlooked preexisting conditions" and unmasks triggers that have nothing to do with sexual urges. He subtly, but faithfully, pushes back against toxic masculinity and helps men engage their emotions: for God, for their families, for themselves.

Drawing on the interpersonal neurobiology of Curt Thompson and the narrative relatability of Dan Allender and Diane Langberg, this book architects a practical manual for seekers and believers alike. Bachman catalyzes a shift from exhausting behavior modification to true transformation—restoring not only the reader's dignity but the dignity of those they once objectified.

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Credentials

Brian Bachman is a therapist who has guided leaders, including pastors, CEOs, therapists, and athletes, over the past ten years. With a Master's degree in Counseling from Covenant Seminary, Brian addresses topics such as shame, effective communication, marriage, and sexual integrity through the intersection of psychology and Christian faith.

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Reading Experience

Brian Bachman combines the narrative, vulnerability, and grace of Brene Brown, the authentic, raw humanity of Donald Miller, and the wisdom of John Mark Comer.